Ebb and Flow

Aloha, Have you noticed there is an ebb and flow to life? To life in general, to your moods, to your relationship with grief, your ongoing connections with loved ones who are no longer here? That’s normal! When you’re on the wave, feeling the groove and things seem to be “clicking” it feels SO good!

Can You Marvel?

Aloha, Losing a child brings a grief and pain unlike any other.  It decimates you, your family, your work, your life as you know it. Whether you want it to or not it, re-calibrates everything in your life both externally and internally. With this upheaval surrounding you it’s easy and natural to feel lost, untethered

When Round Two is Worst than the First

Aloha, The first birthday, the first round of holidays, the first anniversary of a death date.  Those are all the worst right? Not necessarily.  I’d like to hear what others have experienced, but both from my personal life and the parents I’ve worked with the second year is actually harder. I believe this to be

Thirteen Years Later

Aloha, Thirteen years ago tomorrow I held Alison in my arms as she took her last breaths. I of course remember much of the day and certain details, however I no longer remember it all like it was yesterday, and some days I wish I could remember it that vividly.  In those early years I

Sitting on the Sidelines?

Aloha, Being an observer is a good thing.  Sitting on the sidelines observing your life go by is not. After my life was turned upside down and inside out I had to get my bearings, my feet back under me and I did it from the sidelines. And that’s okay.  There are times when I